Loving yourself is the collection and building up of a million small kindnesses to yourself: kind little thoughts and actions. Standing up to your internal critic; or putting the washing away so your home is tidy when you get home from work; or making your breakfast the night before; or cutting yourself some slack; or not letting other people’s needs, no matter how important or urgent they feel to you, cloud or overwhelm your primary responsibility to yourself.
Each kindness makes the next choice, the next action, the next kindness easier.
Resistance, on the other hand, breeds more resistance — more tensions, more anger and loss and rejection. In yoga, in our thoughts, in our relationships, in our actions.
Resist who you are and you’ll find yourself angry that you’re not being seen or heard. Resist what you need the most and observe yourself seek out what it is you need the least. Deny yourself what you want and grow envious and spiteful as others enjoy it. Refuse to relax and feel tension and rigidity fester.
Instead, embrace ease. Embrace softness. Cultivate kindness and gentle action. Notice the narrative of extreme alternative situations and choices and actions your mind invents, and instead choose to perceive mild solutions, moderate choices, kind actions.
Let go of drama. Let go of the the enticing, seductive version of your life that plays-out across a string of high-octane, high-risk chances. Who are you trying to seduce? to convince? The people around you? strangers? your own ego?
Allow yourself to be present to watch your days unfold in a succession of small and gentle choices and actions. Live deliberately, with ease and compassion, and you’ll feel stress and anxiety begin to fall away.
Live small, live for yourself, and live honestly.